I knew there would be mess and tantrums but I thought parenting would come easily to me. I imagined myself never being flustered or reactive and fixing everything with a knowing smile and a hug.
Cue the record screech and reality slap. One night as I lay in bed thinking over the power struggles, meltdowns and tantrums that seemed to be happening at every turn. I wondered, who is this child and where did she come from, and why is my knowing smile and loving embrace not enough?! I was on my knees, I had pulled everything I had out of my bag of tricks to get my child to do what I wanted; the “calm” corner, charts, rewards, ignoring, punishments and taking away TV, treats, toys, playdates and me!
My knowing smile and loving embrace had quickly been replaced with threats and bribes, yelling and throwing my own tantrums. They worked for a short period of time but they never lasted and I found myself having to continually up the anti. All of this now leaving me wondering who was this mother and where did she come from?!
I tried to imagined us in 10 years and I saw a worried and desperate mother who had lost communication with her child and a sad and lost teenager who’s trust, connection and support system had been lost because one of the most pivotal relationships in her life had become disconnected. A deep fear stirred within me and I realised at that moment that I was not equipped to be a parent and that I had been sold a lie that parenting comes naturally.
I was a well intended, loving, caring and supportive mother, but I was parenting from my conditioning and the patterns of my upbringing and it wasn’t working. It wasn’t her it was me! I didn’t have the skills or the emotional intelligence to guide this little being into the whole, well rounded, happy person she was meant to be. I knew that there had to be a better way out there, so I started on my quest to learn how to be a conscious parent.
I saw immediate results from applying the principles of conscious parenting and became deeply committed to my own transformation so as to empower my children. This commitment soon turned into a passion and I deeply immersed myself in the lessons and principles of conscious parenting and emotional intelligence. Today I am a qualified Conscious Parenting Coach and EQ Trainer and I love sharing what I have learnt with other families.
Life is constant evolution and I am dedicated to learning the knowledge and skills required to help myself and others to continually be evolving. The qualifications I have aquired (so far) are:
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